Its a complete delight to find your long forgotten blog while browsing the net after almost 7 years. What is more delightful is to try for a day and remember the credentials to login to it and write a new post. But the most delightful part was scrolling through my past posts and trying to remember me as I was some 10 years ago. A girl of 20, trying to get over a heart break. Now I am 30 and a lot has changed. My way of life, my profession, my marital status and the city of residence. But one thing that has still not changed is my passion for books, music and movies. I plan to continue sharing my thoughts on all of these subjects through this platform.
Having read hundred of books over time, I have drawn a conclusion which is surprising even for me. The love that a person feels for someone not feeling the same way or one who is not admitting their feelings is indeed love. But the love that comes in the form of mutual respect and caring while struggling through the ups and downs of life together, while watching a person fight and stumble, get up and fight again, rest and reflect is purer, fiercer and stronger. Nothing binds you to a person as strongly as sharing this struggle. We cannot love a person truly until we have watched him/her going though the highest of the highs and lowest of the lows. If and when we witness and accept that, we encounter love in its magnificence.
And the person who had helped me the most to draw this conclusion is the author 'Amish Tripathi'. I have read the two books of his Ramayan series released till date. I have started reading the first book of the Shiva Triology and the thought just dawned on me. What would have happened if Ram and Sita, Shiva and Sati had easier lives to begin with. What if they were brought up in a comfortable cocooned environments without the need to face the harsh realities of life. Would they have been able to understand one another? Would they have been still drawn to one another? I believe NO. Nobody becomes extra-ordinary by leading ordinary life. And you earn the right to be with a being who is extra-ordinary, you have to be so yourself. Then only the union can become balanced and harmonious.
An unbalanced relation may also appear beautiful at first, but in the long run brings out the frustrations of lack in understanding and admiration. The point of views of people involved become two parallel lines running straight in the same direction, lying in the same plane, but never meeting. This is the reason why after separations and divorces, the most common reason as explained by the coupes is that they and their partners wanted different things in life, hence the analogy of parallel lines.
Running along with the same analogy we can conclude that an ideal relation would be like a set of intersecting lines. two individuals coming from different backgrounds, meeting at a common point and still maintaining an independent identity of their own. But they will always have that point of intersection as a reference, as a reminder of their shared beliefs and struggles and as a beacon of hope and trust in their toughest times. A reminder that they have something and common and thus giving courage to fight yet another battle in life with trust that they have someone who will fight along their side.
-Charu
Having read hundred of books over time, I have drawn a conclusion which is surprising even for me. The love that a person feels for someone not feeling the same way or one who is not admitting their feelings is indeed love. But the love that comes in the form of mutual respect and caring while struggling through the ups and downs of life together, while watching a person fight and stumble, get up and fight again, rest and reflect is purer, fiercer and stronger. Nothing binds you to a person as strongly as sharing this struggle. We cannot love a person truly until we have watched him/her going though the highest of the highs and lowest of the lows. If and when we witness and accept that, we encounter love in its magnificence.
And the person who had helped me the most to draw this conclusion is the author 'Amish Tripathi'. I have read the two books of his Ramayan series released till date. I have started reading the first book of the Shiva Triology and the thought just dawned on me. What would have happened if Ram and Sita, Shiva and Sati had easier lives to begin with. What if they were brought up in a comfortable cocooned environments without the need to face the harsh realities of life. Would they have been able to understand one another? Would they have been still drawn to one another? I believe NO. Nobody becomes extra-ordinary by leading ordinary life. And you earn the right to be with a being who is extra-ordinary, you have to be so yourself. Then only the union can become balanced and harmonious.
An unbalanced relation may also appear beautiful at first, but in the long run brings out the frustrations of lack in understanding and admiration. The point of views of people involved become two parallel lines running straight in the same direction, lying in the same plane, but never meeting. This is the reason why after separations and divorces, the most common reason as explained by the coupes is that they and their partners wanted different things in life, hence the analogy of parallel lines.
Running along with the same analogy we can conclude that an ideal relation would be like a set of intersecting lines. two individuals coming from different backgrounds, meeting at a common point and still maintaining an independent identity of their own. But they will always have that point of intersection as a reference, as a reminder of their shared beliefs and struggles and as a beacon of hope and trust in their toughest times. A reminder that they have something and common and thus giving courage to fight yet another battle in life with trust that they have someone who will fight along their side.
-Charu
